Marriage:
- Do not relinquish your high standards, even if this means you never get laid.
- Always look for a strong work ethic. The pussy or D gets boring after a while. See how quick your common interests dissipate after enough disagreements and time. A spouse cannot always cook, clean, or outearn you, but if she is a team player at least you'll tolerate each other during the bad times. Brought home dinner? She cleans it up. She ironed your outfit? Start her car. It's not about who helps more, or wins, marriage is a team game.
- Don't get in arguments about weight. If she doesn't care about her own health/shape she especially doesn't care about what you think. If she or you for that matter stay in shape during the marriage it isn't to make the spouse happy, it's for oneself.
- If she doesn't respect you now, she'll never respect you. Visa versa.
- it is okay to have different values, being completely different (in culture, upbringing, chiefly values) ensures you will be swimming upstream your whole life. It's okay to be atheist while she goes to church, or be a Republican when she's a Democrat. But if you simply don't agree with a lot of shit you won't tolerate each other in the long run. Again, the pussy gets boring and she surely can't stand your D anymore.
- Communicate, don't lie. Once deception begins no one ever trusts the other again.
- Lay the ground rules quick, if she's punishing you for some shit an ex once did or something trivial her girlfriends got in her ear about just tell her you won't tolerate it. If you don't suck at sex she'll be back. Or if it's a non-negotiable disagreement, it wasn't meant to be.
- Compromise about small things. But big picture things like money, purchases, and what to do with the children make sure you have an endgame. There's always a point where you can't compromise.
- Marriages last for 3 reasons
1. You guys make a great team
2. Both of you drank the koolaid
3. There is too much to lose by terminating the marriage
Kids:
- the older they get the harder it can be, the more children learn the more they know how to resist you. (Whether it be good ie independence or bad ie make a decision that will result in discipline)
- All parenting advise you get is bad, only you'll know what's truly going on, if you're paying attention. Most advice is projection.
- all children respond to different types of discipline. If you can reason with a child, corporal punishment is unnecessary. Don't judge parents who have little choice but to use it.
- There is no such thing as a good parent. No matter what you are going to fuck up. Bad parenting is easy, as many are negligent and lazy. Sometimes they have naturally good children, and the bad parenting doesn't become apparent until the kids become teenagers.
- don't force your child to be someone they're not, otherwise your child will act out to be the way one is one way or another.
- Children will think you are invincible, faultless. They don't care if you're sick, having a bad day, their expectations upon you are immense. Time to be a man. You'll show up to work on 45 minutes sleep some days. And not the Fortnite kind, you'll not even remember how you drove there.
There's my bitter/jaded/tired advice for now. Feel free to ask more specific questions.