I apologise in advance. Tried to space it out. You'll wish I had missed your response.
Kyo said:
I remember one time in college one of my friends got a hold of my laptop for one reason or another and peeked at some of the discord servers I was in, including the Zeta one, and then said something to me about the forum link in the server's description. Really random and I kinda freaked internally (not that I care *that* much, I don't think), but he's the kind of guy who doesn't care all that much about anything really and pretty much forgot within the hour so no big deal.
Lol that would horrify me back in the day and even now, depending on who it is. Especially on Zeta, where there's more questionable content/abrasive speech patterns, rather than just the old goofy or nerdy stuff. Reminds me of when my friend at uni left his laptop out while he was logged in to Facebook in like 2011 or 2012 (k, 2012, just looked) and I decided to "frape" him, but didn't wanna post anything too messed up so just posted "I'm Karim" (his name) as a status, to make him look silly. He comes back and sees it and comments under it saying "go to hell [wolf]" and someone (who didn't know me) basically said I'm a retard lol and that it's the lamest thing you could do with someone's facebook. So yeh that backfired.
One of my friends is aware of GridZero's Youtube channel and somehow figured out that I knew him, don't remember the exact details there. Saw that I had him friended on Discord or Steam or something like that, probably. That one's just kinda cool though, I can be like, I knew this guy before he got big. Well, it's cool as long as he never puts out any BS that I can't get behind, anyway.
Damn that is cool. Maybe if Progo's rap career takes off you can do the same again. Which reminds me that I found out today that that Krystal from dbzf (who used to post cosplay photos)is a voice actress in Hazbin Hotel and a few anime dubs, not that I've heard of any of them. Also reminds me of some composer who was Hitler's childhood friend, who wasn't interested in politics but joined the Nazi Party out of loyalty to his old friend. Hopefully if a friend puts out some questionable content (even just a bad review) it wouldn't reflect badly on you anyway, although I guess people can be idiots with how quickly they judge other people, just for being associated with someone.
I don't know about you, but I'm the kinda guy who assumes that, although I remember such and such person from the past, they're not going to remember me back. Usually I feel like I wasn't a significant enough part of their lives for them to remember me after X amount of time, but then again the reverse is true as well and I still manage to remember, so who knows. Pretty sure we discussed this already on Discord actually but yeah. I'd be too nervous to initiate any contact with someone I haven't seen in a long time unless we were pretty close back then lol.
Yeh 100% I feel the same way. You mentioned before something like people who just barely passed through your life you'll remember and they probably won't remember you. Yeh we did discuss this on discord I guess lol. You ninja'd my thoughts.
Funny you say that about getting in contact, because I messaged Koaj on Tapatalk DBZF today, just asking how he is with the current situations, where he can find me or espo/that the discord is active and that me, you, espo and SHC haven't forgotten about him and don't ever be a stranger. He might not have email notifications on anyway though/might not see it even if he does (I know I wouldn't unless I searched my inbox, if it's my hotmail). But I'm the same where I would feel nervous, like they might be like "wtf this is random/weird" and tbh I always blank friends (like a friend (the guy I fraped actually) got in contact in June after like maybe 5 years and I replied but then haven't read his next reply, just a bad habit probably too concerned with saying the right thing or something, idk. Not really a thing that happens once I'm super close with someone again). Might have already told that story (but with less detail) in the previous post lol - I already forgot. Had a (uni) friend who added me after years, messaged me and then when I replied with a characteristically long reply (although I tried to keep it short) and he unfriended me without saying anything else lol, although he's honestly a weirdo (not saying that out of spite, he just is considering his first message randomly included telling me he watched violent videos and it fucked him up/advised me not to do it, even though there was no reason to think I would anyway). I think the fact so many people have added me or tried to add me 5-15 years after last seeing me indicates people don't fully forget, at least if you were actually "friends" for at least a year (some weren't my friends at all though, just classmates. Not added most people though). I just remembered I went for a haircut when I was 16 and my mum took me and the barber was like "I went to nursery with you", like he remember my mum was flipping nursery wtf, although she didn't really remember him if I remember correctly lol (she didn't say that to him though, just acknowledged she went to the same nursery pretty much). He gave me one of the best haircuts I've ever had (was evening so it was a less experienced barber and him both cutting my hair together lol. Mind you it was almost double the price of my usual place) but it was also shorter than ever (except for as a baby) and had started snowing while I was in there, so I got a cold.
Anyway, I've thought about it and logically life is too short to be embarrassed or to wonder "should I contact this person?". I've thought for years it's stupid how people die or are close to dying and then people will say "I wish I'd talked to them", "should have told them what I thought/felt" etc, as if they're the first person in the world to ever regret leaving it too late to make the most of a relationship with someone (ie they should have learnt from others' experiences). Having said that I don't follow my own advice, because not all my behaviour is logical. I try to though. Sometimes I'll put off contacting someone because the time doesn't feel right (like my life circumstances aren't right or something), but tbh the time might never be "right". I defo need to reply to my cousin's message I got a few weeks ago (not spoken for years) and message Ani-Nation and my friend I mentioned above (might do some dumb shit like wait until his bday in a few months, to kinda use it as an excuse for a message (as if I need a fucking excuse)/have that the importance of that occasion override any potential feelings of embarrassment or whatever. The awkwardness of explaining why you delayed a reply is difficult itself). It is probs harder with someone if you weren't that close or it's been so long you've forgotten how close you actually were. That's a good thing with forums - you can look back and actually see how things were. Although if they don't do that too, they might have forgotten. Life's too short though and you can jog their memory anyway. Smack 'em one.
And then sometimes I actually do forget people here and there.......sometimes I meet up with someone irl again after some time and I perfectly remember who they are (face and all that) but forget their name, think that's fairly common though. There was a girl in college whose name I legit forgot on like two different occasions (tbf she was Asian and didn't have too common a name, though not an overly complicated one either) and I just wanted to die both times. The second time I ended the conversation very quickly before it came up and then messaged my friend asking him to remind me of her name for future reference, but he had trouble remembering too for a couple minutes until we poked each other's brains enough.
Bruh I don't know if it's common, but I've literally found myself struggling to remember names of people who I only stopped working with in April, after 6 months to a year of seeing them 5 days a week. Freaks me out. Usually I can jog my memory and get the names back, but it gets harder the longer I go without thinking about someone. I wonder if you were immortal how long it would take to forget your parent's names or if you changed your name how long it would take to forget your original name). Maybe you would never forget, but who knows. I've wondered about how long it would take for everything you consider to make up your identity to be fully replaced if you were living through different eras over thousands of years.
Ha sometimes common names are worst tbh. Like a name like Curtis is easy, but a name like Mark could be Mike, Matt, Mick, Steve or whatever (ps did you know the origin of the name Mark is the doctor forgot to fill in the 1700s forgot birth certificate properly but got it dirty, which got read as being a "mark"? I like trying to get people to believe random lies like this, although I always fess up). I feel like calling someone the wrong name or forgetting their name can be really offensive, even though as you say it doesn't mean you've forgotten who they are. A name isn't even that important - my name gets a couple of pronunciations (anglicised vs not), loads of people have different names (first, last or both) in different countries/communities (eg a Chinese name with family and an Anglicised name at school/work) and I've been super close to people online without knowing their actual name or rarely ever using their name. A name is just one feature of who someone is and it's one of the most superficial and impersonal things about someone really - considering it's often one of the first bits of information you give someone upon meeting them. Not that I don't understand how forgetting would offend someone/make them think you don't care (I'm bad with names when I first meet people and once straight up told someone this and that it wasn't personal and asked him to tell me his name again so I can remember it and he looked all stroppy lol, even though I thought it was better than the whole struggling to not let on that you've forgotten someone's name during a conversation/waiting for someone else to say their name or back in the day being like "what's your name on facebook" or obv if they have a hard to spell name you're lucky and can ask how to spell it).
Lol beavis and butthead both forgetting her name, that's funny. You can be beavis. I've actually convinced myself that I've remembered someone's name, then realised just in time that actually no, that's a similar name but the wrong name. I did call someone by the wrong name at work after confidently convincing myself I'd remembered them all correctly, even though I'd been loosely working with this woman for like 4 months already. Luckily she didn't hear it properly (she probs would have known it was her name I was saying, if that had actually been her name), but it was still a shock to me lol.
Warmmeup said:
I defo don't seek out a whole lot of music recently (2020), but I spent a few years going through so many genres that youtube just gives me a decent variety of new stuff. Actively looking for music can defo be a time-wasting rabbithole, at a certain point.
Sometimes I look at what Youtube or Spotify recommends me if it's new and I find some new songs that way. Other times I'll watch a streamer and they've got music playing in the background and I'll try to figure out what it is since it sounds nice. But yeah, I don't care enough about music to actively seek out a ton of new stuff, I don't mind listening to what I already know again and again as background noise if I need/want to. I'd rather seek out other forms of media.
Yeh same as me with the related videos I guess then. I recently have been putting youtube on the wide player so the related vids don't distract me though, cuz I'll get too curious about them all sometimes, especially if the name or thumbnail picture is cool. Personally I find if I use something as background noise (for reading, studying, commuting, getting ready for the day, sleeping or whatever. I've been trying to cut music out though and am less dependent on it compared to a few months ago) for a while, it loses its effectiveness eventually and needs replacing. After a few days, weeks or months. So I do save anything new I find that could serve as future background music in youtube playlists, but I also already have enough stuff now to keep me going. I do still like to hear what's out there, just to experience new stuff and I've taken an interest in composition and stuff, ever since I started playing bass in like 2018. By other media you mean movies, anime and youtube videos? I defo used to spend too much time on listening to music, to the point where I'm not getting anything out of it (unless I was dancing or something, in which case at least it's exercise). It's almost like reading the same manga over and over - gets to being an ineffective use of time.
Warmmeup said:
Lol I didn't mean Slayerslice. Haha. I meant the band, since you chose them over Metallica, in an old topic.
Oh lol, okay. I actually don't quite remember saying that in the past, but I'll take your word for it. I haven't listened to a song from Slayer in years I feel like, I'd probably sooner listen to a Metallica song these days, seeing as how I listened to Enter Sandman like...a few days ago. But I guess I have no reason to not like them still, would just have to listen to some stuff again to refresh my memory. I mostly listen to hip hop these days though, with a sprinkling of J-Pop/J-Rock/K-Pop on the side.
Yeh it was like 7.5 years ago. I would almost never voluntarily listen to Slayer for more than like 30 seconds, surprised you would've ever put them ahead of Metallica. Metallica maybe a bit, although I've gone off the vocals completely. Had a phase of checking out Megadeth (Koaj's old favourite band actually) for a few weeks or so though. If I listen to too much metal or heavy, angry or sad rock music it eventually isn't good for my mood - just makes me a bit more insular. But going back there sometimes gives me a boost, probably because it's the first kind of music I was into.
You listen to Kpop ahahahahahahaha. Funny because I do a bit too, very occasionally. I listened to quite a lot from like early/mid 2018 until early 2020. G-Dragon had a cool video (Crooked) I saw in like 2015 and I remembered it and looked up kpop, liked just the dance choreography and visuals in general, but eventually I liked the music and the positive lyrics (compared to a lot of the super popular American pop stuff I was aware of at the time, which seemed to all be about sex or something negative like breakups) too. G-Dragon, Bigbang, BlockB, BAP, Blackpink, BTS, Monsta X, Exo, Seo Taiji, Stray Kids, Shinee, Dreamcatcher and NCT were some I liked multiple songs by. Got into some 90s style stuff like Lee Jung Hyun, Kim Hyun Jung and Koyote too, which was more eurodance influenced I'd say (idk).
I've listen to quite a lot of Jrock and Jpop since around mid 2017, although I've been trying to get back into English-language stuff, partly because I can actually understand it (although there are benefits to not being able to understand the lyrics) and partly because it's a bit more normal and makes talking to people about music easier. Like before I could say I was into rock, metalcore or whatever, but then all the bands I liked were Japanese, so I would just name some old American/maybe British bands that in truth I hadn't been much into for years. I'll go online and find reddit threads where people have asked for bands similar to Japanese artists I like, but all the recommendations are other Japanese bands, rather than similar Eng-lang artists, so that's fruitless for transitioning back away from Japanese stuff. Obviously anime music was a segue into (just found out segue isn't spelt "segway") listening to Japanese music, but what got me full on into all that stuff was again playing bass because Jrock tends to have more varied, melodic and prominent basslines (from what I've read it's due to American jazz influencing Japanese jazz and jazzrock bands like Casiopeia in the 80s and then Japanese rock being influenced by that. Whereas I suppose in America jazzrock was never as mainstream so didn't influence rock as much) and also tbh I was looking for ideas on how to style my (black) hair and maybe clothes lol.
Parasyte did have some gruesome bits in the manga yeah. Anime was pretty toned down in comparison, not intentionally I don't think, just didn't come off quite the same due to the inherent direction and artstyle there. Oyasumi Punpun has some parts that are really tense and a little creepy, not sure if it's quite the same thing though -- doesn't really fall under the horror umbrella, but it makes you uneasy. Homunculus was also freaky. Haven't read Uzumaki yet but probably will sometime.
I'm not into horror for pretty much the exact same reasons, so I just don't bother to watch it a lot of the time. Generally speaking I don't think I have too many biases for or against different genres, but horror is one exception. I can definitely do without it. Horror in anime or manga is probably more manageable though, up to a certain extent anyway.
From what I heard one thing the anime did was made Migi more of an actual friend to the MC than in the manga. I can imagine Punpun being creepy, kinda like Chi no Wadachi possibly. Like real life interpersonal situations that just feel fucked up. Yeh Homunculus was weird from what I read. 20th Century Boys is pretty weird, in a mystery thriller sort of way (it's about a cult). Dorohedoro and Psycho-Pass (more so) would be the sort of stuff I'd consider to have horror elements. Even Neon Genesis a bit, but that's more psychological and existential horror and concentrated towards the end. A lot of my favourite movies are thrillers that involve somewhat horrifying circumstances, but aren't horror per say. To me even a war movie like Saving Private Ryan might be a horror (not seen it), but obviously it's not part of the horror genre....it is real life horror though, which I like. Part of why I don't like particularly like Tarantino movies like Pulp Fiction, Django Unchained (was ok, since it was unique) and Kill Bill is he removes that from the violence (Reservoir dogs was an exception).
Yeh worst medium for horror is games, if you don't want to be scared (mentioned before that I was atrocious at Silent Hill, even before seeing any enemies. Heck, I used to be scared to carry on in games like Timesplitters or even the stealth level in a James Bond game creeped me the f out). Manga you do have to choose to carry on (which could be harder than a movie say), but it not having sound helps. That said, I am a Hero legit almost jumpscared me with the way you'd turn a page and see some bad or scary stuff happen.
Mostly just shirts is what I meant. One hoodie, but hoodies were expensive as hell in general, I only got the one that I did because it was an Evangelion one and I figured that I had no clue when I'd ever come back to Japan again and I had money to burn, so fuck it. Still missed out on a lot of cool looking stuff though. Got a few other things but I'd have to dig through my closet to find everything, I could show you some pictures at some point if you want to see.
Cons were cool yeah. One of them was just Baltimore Comic Con, the other was sort of a medium sized anime con in a hotel. The latter was a tiny bit underwhelming in comparison, but still cool, probably would've been better with a larger group of people. Nice congregation of nerds though. Lots of well-done cosplay (although a majority of it was probably MHA stuff lol. What's surprising was the number of actual children in MHA cosplays at Comic Con in particular). Bought some artwork and stuff to support the starving artists and all that, I planned to find some frames to put some of them in but I got lazy and haven't done it yet. Comic Con was also selling super cheap issues of old comics and manga volumes, I bought a random volume of
this for like one or two dollars, forget which. I'd like to go to a much bigger anime or games con at some point since the anime one could've been better, but that's not happening anytime soon. That being said, I don't think they're something I'd regularly go to, just a cool thing to experience a couple of times, aside from instances in which some industry figure or content creator that I know of and enjoy visits one near me perhaps.
Oh right. Yeh band or anime hoodies tend to be crazy expensive outside of Japan too, like USD$50-65. With bands I defo big markups on merch, because it's how they make their money nowadays and you're getting to financially support the band/pay them for their work. That's good you got some stuff while you were there. Some people frown upon wearing stuff like that and yeh you don't wanna destroy your reputation but it's cool to rep what you're into or wear something unique sometimes. Life's short and that.
I'd defo like to see, yeh.
Nerds. Reminds me of the manga Genshiken where they go to cons and people sell weird fanmade comics/doujinshi. Lmao you bought some romance novel, what a surprise.
A manga, but "romance novel" sounds worse so yeh. "Romance novella" would sound even worse, but I won't go there.
I guess MHA really is like the new Naruto then, since from what I saw online it used to loads of people dressed as Konoha or Akatsuki ninjas. I wonder if kids used to go to cons much like 10 years ago. Probably more kids into anime now, since many of them have parents who are somewhat into anime themselves. "Actual children" lol
I wanna go to at least one anime con to see how it is/get to openly fully nerd out and be around other fans, even though some fans might be kinda weird (just from my perspective ofc). I always thought it looked cool when I saw people post about them.
Warmmeup said:
If you could only watch one anime for the next 10 years (won't be mean and say for life), what would it be?
Hmmm. Something long would be preferable so that it could be more easily spread out over time, Gintama is the only thing I could think of that I could feasibly do that with without getting sick of it...but I might probably still get sick of it, lol. Still, something lighter/comedic overall would be best, I think I'd go nuts if I watched something heavier over and over for 10 years.
Surprised you chose that one (dunno what I actually expected if anything in particular. Maybe NGE since you like it and Asuka('s visuals?), but yeh that definitely a short and dark one (what you talkin about willis)), but I'd have said Gintama too (that's what made me think of the question in the first place and what made me consider it my favourite anime, even though there were others I liked just as much). Has enough interesting characters and situations to keep its rewatch value.
